We never feel low because of others. It is our own perspective that defines how we feel. Yet, we often blame others, and our partner in particular is the recipient of our mood.

If a relationship gives us the opportunity to be true with someone else, it does not mean that we should be careless. In fact, we should do what it takes to feel better as soon as possible in order to spare our partner from dealing with a disagreeable person.

In theory it might be beautiful to think that your life partner’s duty is to deal with you no matter what. In reality though, if you want to nurture the flame that makes your relationship worth living, you had better be cautious. Nurturing pleasure and desire is an important part of a loving relationship.

Reminding yourself in your low moments that you have someone next to you to spare and care for might precisely be the very thing that will uplift your mood.