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I don’t think it is a good idea. Here’s why.

Vanishing sex desire for women as they age is a problem. Of course we can blame the partners for their lack of skills. As always this is the easy road but not the right road.

We, women, have proactive steps to take to make sure  we have a pleasurable sex life with our partner. And when we realize that it is all in our head, switching to that mood is a choice…

After some time spent together, most women think that their partner’s approach is what turns them off. The truth though is that they have stopped dreaming about him.

Sex for any woman is first and foremost in her imagination. She dreams, she fantasizes, and she uses reality to match her feelings. Initially a new relationship helps a great deal for that: soon there is enough trust to imagine what the other is, and welcome him in any move more or less approaching what she believes. Her believes combined with her hormones makes her a responsive partner in sexual approach. The male partner still has this mystery that lets her imagination works.

When you have known each other for years, you have kids that have left you with an imbalanced  hormonal system, well hormones are not really helping anymore.

What is left is imagination, though! And imagination is always at play.

Do anything to stimulate that imagination so you feel sexy and open with your life partner. Of course it is not all on you ladies! Guys, keep things private: shut the bathroom door when you are in it, refrain from showing her your excusable relaxing noises.. and I could go on. Think about what you would not do if you wanted to seduce her, and you will get the picture.

The point is that imagination needs to be stimulated so it works to strenghten your own relationship, and not fantasize on other ones.

Two things must be closely checked by both partners:

  • Make space in your reality for mystery: keep your bathroom a private space. Make sure you appear to your advantage as much as possible. Make sure both partners have some time off: nervous exhaustion is never conducive for a woman.
  • Nurture your sensitivity to seduction ladies: we all have our own ways to do that. Good romantic novels are an easy way to do that. They are entertaining, relaxing and they offer a very easy identification to a seduced woman. I love Lauren Royal books in that regard. She writes historical novels which offer no detrimental comparison with our current life. Reading that is only beneficial and I wish more men were reading these books that give great insights in women’s mindset regarding sex. Check the Lauren Royal’s Jewel Trilogy and Flower Trilogy.

A long-term relationship needs to be nurtured to last: it needs desire and action. It is not easy. This is why I created peacereminder: it is the same revolution to relationships as Apple’s revolution for computers. Peacereminder makes nurturing your relationship easy and pleasurable. Guys it is free: it is too good to miss!

Love to you all